The world is filled with people who are unhappy and even angry because they can’t get the love that they want. Most of us think that we need to do something different or be with someone different in order to get what we think we need—love from someone else. We have to be better, do more, achieve more, or look different to get what we want. Because much of the love we experience is conditional, and because of our societal norms which say that we need to buy or earn love, and the most powerful love is when we are…

Generally, society works against us discovering and being ourselves. We are taught to be what society and our parents want us to be. There is little faith in the brilliance and miracle of who we are. Instead, there is typically a fear that we are not enough and we have to push to be the best we can be to get what we want. We have to make ourselves into what we are supposed to be, and that is (we are told) not an easy road. There is little belief that a child is sufficient and just needs to be…

The world in which we live is violent in large part due to how we raise our children. We assume that children are small and undeveloped and without the need for freedom and personal choice. However, we traumatize them by making demands, creating unnecessary limits, not listening to them and not considering their needs or desires. In response, children fight back, recoil in fear or both, internalizing that they are not enough. As a result, children mature into the victim-tyrant mode where they alternate from one position to the other, either feeling victimized or being a tyrant who fights those…